What kind of stinky bullshit is this?
A friend if mine reposted this on social media today, from a Dr. Laura page (screaming in head). To me, and I’m not referencing these statements to my friend, but these words sound like the words of someone who is growing tired of waiting for her Prince Charming and may settle for Mr. Less-than-charming in hopes to mold him because no one is getting any younger here, am I right?!
My philsophy is that the person who will best suit you for the long term is the person that you don’t have to change. Yeah, so its going to take you a little longer in your pursuit, but one person in a relationship should ever have to change the another to attain happiness. You should love one another as-is, or get the hell out and find someone you’re actually compatible with and let the other move on with the freedom to be themselves. It is perfectly okay to realize you’re not compatible. Find the one who is already made just for you and you will conquer the world together. But even more than that, expect and accept that you and that person will always have your differences. They may be big, or they may be a series of trivial differences, but they will exist. Deal with it.
Demanding someone to change things about themselves that you simply don’t like, and are not harmful (such as drugs, abuse, et al, would be), is manipulation. Pure and simple. Asking someone to stop leaving wet puddles from the shower on the bathroom floor because you’ve almost broken your neck for the second time this week is much different than demanding they stop wearing their hair short because you prefer longer hair and putting them down til they relent and grow it out only to discover that you also don’t like t-shirts. Or their laugh. Or the Seahawks.
“The best love is one that makes you better without changing you into someone other than yourself.”
Don’t expect someone to change for you. You will not be happy waking up one day and thinking “This is not the Prince Charming I married all those years ago. What happened to that guy?”.